critic, cheerleader, or coach? 📣
you need a coach – a.k.a. me
Here’s a tweet to get us thinking today.
Let me expand.
It’s highly likely that, at least sometimes, you act as a critic in your own life (there may well be notable others doing a good job of this, too – difficult bosses, unhelpful family members). Like Adam says, a critic focuses on your shortcomings. All the things you can’t do – all the ways in which you fall short. The unfavourable opinion, the things in which you find yourself lacking. You’ll never be able to do that. You always give up. Nobody listens to what you have to say. Your problem is that you’re just too sensitive. You won’t get that promotion – it’ll go to someone way more competent and confident than you. What *exactly* do you contribute to the discussion?
It’s easy to criticise. It’s sometimes necessary. But I would argue that for many of us the voice of the critic needs to pipe down. You need to hear some other voices to give some balance or optimism to this crushing narrative. A critic doesn’t empower you to move on or change, in fact, the exact opposite is most likely to take place. You stay put, you hide away, or even retreat so that you can avoid any more criticism in the future.
But what of the cheerleader? I mean, l like the idea of that. In fact, we all need some cheerleaders in our lives. Our loved ones and our friends can play this role — and we actively need them to, at times. We need them to overlook our shortcomings, cheer us on, remind us of what we do that is brilliant, tell us that we can face challenges. We can even do it for ourselves. You can do this. You’ve faced challenges before, and you can face them again. Why notapply for that new job? You’ve got what it takes. You are brilliant. The only problem is, that sometimes it all feels a bit shallow. We can’t do everything, and be everything, we can’t win at all things, and we aren’t always amazing. We need to be cheered, but there’s an even better way, perhaps a role that needs to be played by someone outside of our nearest and dearest.
The role of the coach. The word is banded around left, right and centre — but what does it mean to be a coach? Well, the essence of being a coach is to help you bring about change and to support you at every level as you head towards your potential. They help you work on what you can’t do, but they focus on what you can do and maximise that, so that you are able to do and be better — as cheesy as it sounds, a better version of you. That’s what I love to do, and have done with life-changing outcomes as I’ve worked with hundreds of clients over the years.
But how do you focus on what you can do, if you’re not exactly sure of what that is?
How do you focus on your potential, if all too often you’ve heard a resounding critical voice in your own head, or from the words of others, and so you’ve lost your sense of self?
Or, indeed, how about if you’ve been told you’re great, you’re kind, you’re helpful, you’re hardworking, you’re a team player and other generic positive words — but that doesn’t really help you work out what it is that you can actually do?
If you find yourself asking the question, what exactly is it that I do well? — I would love to help you find the answer.
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