Where did your confidence go?
Hello dear reader,
Have you ever found yourself wondering, 'Where did my confidence go?'
Not in a dramatic, falling-apart kind of way, but in the quiet moments. Like when you hold back in a meeting. Second-guess a decision you used to make easily. Or wonder why your voice, your ideas, or your instincts don’t land the way they used to. You look in the mirror, and don’t fully recognise the person standing in front of you.
This week on The Purpose Pursuit, we’re talking about something that doesn’t get enough airtime: the shift in confidence that can happen in midlife. Why it sneaks up on so many of us, and how we begin to rebuild a more grounded, honest version of it.
Confidence isn’t just about being bold or outspoken. At its core, it’s about trust, trusting your judgment, your instincts, your place in the room. And for many people, especially in midlife, that trust starts to erode.
Sometimes it’s external: a change in role, career, relationships, health, or status. Sometimes it’s internal: the quiet weight of expectations, the pressure to have it ‘figured out,’ or the disorientation of realising the things that once made you feel confident don’t land the same way anymore.
Sound familiar?
We dig into three important truths:
This episode also includes a few practical strategies you can try right away:
• Reconnect with what actually matters to you now, not what used to
• Learn how to quiet that voice in your head that always demands more
• Set boundaries that protect your energy and build self-respect
• And yes, celebrate what you’ve already overcome - even if no one else saw it
If you’ve ever found yourself playing small, doubting your impact, or wondering when you stopped feeling like yourself, this episode is for you.
It’s about becoming someone even more real, more rooted, and more at ease with who you are now.
With love,
Hannah x
P.S. I’d love to hear your thoughts - has confidence felt different for you in this season (midlife, or any other trigger)? Just hit reply or send me a DM (I’m @hellohannahmiller on socials). I always enjoy hearing your reflections.